ONLY GOOD FOR SEX?

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We need a male’s perspective in our plus size advice column so I’m calling on Bruce Sturgell  from Chubstr to help out on the important ‘are fat girls only good for sex’ question. If you’re looking for plus size advice shoot me an e-mail: contact@bigcurvylove.com or DM on Facebook.

Plus Size Advice

QUESTION: Why do some men treat heavy women as though we’re only good for sex & not marriage material?

KELLY’S ANSWER:  The cold hard truth on this one is that some guys are embarrassed to be with plus size women. Not all just some. Things are changing with the body positive movement and more prominent celebrities being seen as sexy such as Rebel Wilson and Amber Riley but some guys see plus size women as ‘less than.’ The quickest way to testing a guy on this is to not sleep with him and see if he bothers sticking around.

Guys using girls for sex isn’t exclusively a big girls issue either as there are also dudes who will sleep with women, keep them a secret and have no intention of a relationship or marrying them. If a guy only wants to have sex with you but isn’t interested in taking you out in public, introducing you to his family and friends then he is clearly a man you don’t want to be with.

Why are they only interested in sex with plus size women? Because they A) think fat girls are easy B) like fat girls but have issues admitting it C) are a dirt bag guy who thinks plus size women are lesser.  The key is figuring out what kind of person he is before you slip between the sheets and give him a bounce with your big booty.

CHUBSTR’S ANSWER: Some people just aren’t worth your time. It’s in your best interests to surround yourself with people that are on the same page with you – who care about you in whatever way you want them to. Be clear about what you want, and if the guy in question doesn’t feel the same way, it’s probably time to move on. The world is a huge place, and there’s certainly someone out there who will share your values if you’re clear about what you want, and willing to take the time for things to happen. Being patient can sometimes be the most difficult part.~Bruce

Why do you think guys treat plus size woman as though they are only good for sex? Share your opinion in the comments.

Bruce Sturgell, Chubstr

Bruce Sturgell is the Founder of Chubstr.com, the style destination for men of many sizes. Bruce is a husband and father who believes it’s not about what you wear but rather about how it makes you feel.  Big guys wanting to create personal Style should follow Chubstr on Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest

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  1. Most guys do think plus size women are easy. They think the more the flesh the lower the self esteem so we’re easy targets. I personally jump straight to the point I don’t engage in small talk I ask them right off top, so you looking for sex and once the say yes I shut em down and move right along. I don’t have the time to waste beating around the bush on someone who’s not going to get past a first conversation.

  2. I wrote an article on this last year. I don’t think it’s a plus size girl problem as it’s an all girls problem. There are a lot of men who are not being raised to value women. These guys are simply treating them as play things to use and abuse. They value their friends’ opinions versus looking for a solid partner to build their lives with and have a family with. They want to be seen as the Alpha Dog on the block who can conquer all kinds of women – that marriage is just another notch on their belts.
    That being said it’s definitely not all guys. There are plenty of good guys out there who are looking for a partner to build their life with and/or children. It is important to be true to yourself, what you want, and communicate that clearly with your partner. Each pot has a lid.