If you’re looking for plus size advice shoot me an e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org or DM on Facebook. You can remain anonymous so just send me your question, problem and I’ll be happy to help! Tresume wants to know what is the correct term for fat? Here’s what she wrote:
QUESTION:Which is the most ‘correct term’ to use: Curvy, Plus size, or Fat? I thought curvy was in reference to the Jessica Rabbit, hourglass, big-small-big body type?
Also, I thought that the word fat had lost its “negative” connotations? I think a discussion on ‘labels’ and ‘names’ would be a good start.
G’day Tresume, Great question! Okay lets get right to it and cut the fat.
I have a lot of friends who freak out and laugh when I use the word ‘fat’ to describe myself. They almost think I shouldn’t be saying it as I’m putting myself down and it shocks them. Personally, I don’t see it as a negative or insult because for me its just a fact. I’m overweight, I’m fat. I know it. If someone uses the word ‘fat’ toward me as an insult it has no sting in its tail at all. “Duh, tell me something I don’t know. Dumb ass!” Note: I didn’t say ‘fat ass’ LOL
However other people feel differently when describing themselves and would never use the word ‘fat’ so I think it’s important to be mindful of that too. I’m also a fan of using ‘plus size’ when it comes to fashion and ‘big girl’ too but for some ‘big girl’ is condescending so really can anyone win on this issue? I’ve been flat out asked what is the correct term for fat? To me it is ‘fat’ but I know a woman who was clearly plus size but didn’t like being called that. To that I say her body and her decision on what she likes being called. Honestly this is all about personal preference. Again, I think plus size is a respectful term and I wholeheartedly embrace it as has the fashion industry.
What do you do when referring to other women? Girlfriend, I’d err on the side of caution for sure as you don’t know how that person will feel. Call someone fat and you might end up with a black eye or at the very least a serious side eye. In my book the most complimentary and inoffensive word you can use is ‘curvy.’ It’s seen as the ‘nicer’ and ‘gentler’ and overall a fun overarching term to use, however there’s debate of fat/overweight people taking over the word ‘curvy’ leaving those ‘Jessica Rabbit,’ ‘Marilyn Monroe’ and that chick out of Mad Men shaped girls nowhere to go. A lot of them don’t want to be lumped in the same category as someone like me or Rebel Wilson. Personally as an overweight person I consider myself to be in the fat category and not curvy. I understand your dilemma on which is the correct term for fat and which word to use.
So I guess when referring to others the PC or most inoffensive term to use is ‘curvy’ but in identifying and refering to yourself choose whatever the bloody word you like most love! Some like; fluffy, full figured, plump, queen sized. Once you hear how a woman refers to herself you’ll know what she likes.
~Kelly (fat, big girl, plus size) xoxox
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