50 Fat Dates follows my quest to find Big Curvy Love (girlfriend’s in her thirties and looking for a man…don’t judge.) I’ve challenged myself to go on 50 dates over the course of one year and share my dating stories, plus size dating tips and lessons learned. If this is your first visit make sure to catch up!~Kelly
I’ve had my first really great date! Drew asked me out on Facebook (here’s the official date invitation.) Of course I shared the news with you and took a poll as to whether you thought I should date him. A big fat 94% of Big Curvy Lovers voted yes which meant Drew was officially date number four on my 50 Fat Dates quest.
We did a bit of back-and-forth on Facebook chat while he was away visiting his family in Boston. I kept it short as I prefer in person chat and was always a bit skeptical that it might be a prank targeting a fat girl. As much as I don’t like to admit it this still plagues me as part of dating as a plus size woman. The element of being the target of a joke.
Drew chose an awesome restaurant in Culver City and a late night musical improv show in Hollywood. All week I’d been worried about having a dinner date at 9pm (is that actually eating dinner, or do you eat first and have something a snack and drinks?) I chose to have a late lunch and didn’t even get off work until 8pm, so 9pm turned out to be the perfect time. Maybe this guy knew a few things about working women?
Drew waited for me out front and looked great wearing jeans and a blue shirt. Wow he was real! I’d seen his profile picture but I had no idea he was 6″4! I met him with a hug and had to reach up really high on my tippy toes while he bent down to meet me. He is good looking, with short brown hair, wears glasses and I wondered if he was in his mid twenties. I used to have a big crush on Jason Segel from How I Met Your Mother and Drew reminded me a little of him.
Lately I’ve been thinking about how relationships are like running a three-legged-race and how both parties need work as a team in the same direction. At least I think that’s how it needs to be for me since I’m in my mid-thirties and on a real-life love quest, I knew at some stage I’d have to ask the age question to see if we were heading toward the same finish line. I found out Drew is twenty eight and wondered if my being eight years older meant our goals were different. Did this mean I could end up being an accidental cougar?
I push the idea out of my mind and focus on the delicious beer can chicken and century eggs. Conversation was easy, he wanted to know a lot about me and I was interested in his career in politics. He’s smart, kind, and found my blog when he was doing research on finding his ex-girlfriend an awesome plus size gift.
Drew was completely chivalrous the entire evening, opened doors, grabbed the bill at lightening speed, walked me to my car. After dinner we drove in separate cars to Hollywood (my neighborhood) and got into a packed improv show. It was so popular there weren’t even two seats together so we had to sit apart. I felt bad for Drew and sent him a message to see if he wanted to stay or go but the lights were already down and the show started.
By the time the show ended it was really late so Drew walked me to my car and we had another chat before I left. I pointed out that the street sign we were standing under is my nephew’s name and he asked if I wanted to have kids (I said yes.) I could see by the look in his eye that our life timing was out so we hugged, exchanged numbers and that was the end of date #4.
In your teens and twenties age and the ‘life plan’ doesn’t really matter but in your mid to late thirties its everything. Drew was awesome and officially my first good date. Its so great to know there are real life good guys out there who actively pursue big girls.
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