50 Fat Dates follows my quest to find Big Curvy Love (girlfriend’s in her thirties and looking for a man…don’t judge.) I’ve challenged myself to go on 50 dates over the course of one year and share my dating stories, plus size dating tips and lessons learned. 50 Fat Dates kicked off on Valentines Day so if this is your first visit make sure to catch up!~Kelly
It’s 1.13am and my driving test at the DMV is tomorrow. No, I’m not laying awake thinking about how my test might end up like the scene out of Clueless(although it might.) I can’t sleep because my mind is running in circles about my 50 Fat Dates (or lack thereof.) It’s been almost a month since Valentine’s Day and I’ve haven’t been on a single date! Nope not even one. Everyone keeps asking me about it and its on my mind all the time.
I got the ball rolling by sending out a group e-mail (plea) to my friends, family and colleagues asking for introductions to single men who would be interested in dating me. It’s been a week and I haven’t received a single response. Not one. Tumble weeds are freaking rolling down my street here in Hollywood (was it something I said?)
Here’s what I sent:
I can only imagine the non- responses is one of two things A) Nobody want their guy friends/ relatives/colleagues to date me or B) They don’t want me dating their friends/ relatives/colleagues. C) They don’t want their men to be the subject of a blog post on 50 Fat Dates (even if they are anonymous.) I even posted in a Facebook group and got called out for ‘crowd sourcing’ so had to remove it. I hadn’t really thought of it that way but I suppose that’s what asking for introductions are.
Despite that, here’s what I’ve been hearing a lot of “he’s not good enough for you” but maybe they’re my friends are also thinking “she’s not good enough for him?” The other response I’ve had is that people only know married guys. I guess this is a good real-life example of what dating for a plus size woman in her 30’s is like and how difficult it is to get introduced to single men via friends, family and colleagues. It’s hard. On the positive I’m not looking for any ‘pity dates’ so I count myself lucking for not having to deal with that. I’d rather legit guys who are interested in me.
Even though this ‘introduction’ element of 50 Fat Dates has been a big fat failure. I’m not giving up. I’ve got lots of other ways of meeting men in mind. Sooner or later I’m going to have to do what I’ve been avoiding for years…online dating. I’ll be honest this scares me a lot but it’s something I have to do. I’m sure a lot of plus size women (and women in general) feel the same way so since I’m representing the big girls on this project I’ll have to take one for the team and set up those online dating profiles. Wish me luck! Any tips for online dating~Kelly