50 FAT DATES-A BIG FAT FLOP SO FAR

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50 Fat Dates follows my quest to find Big Curvy Love (girlfriend’s in her thirties and looking for a man…don’t judge.)  I’ve challenged myself to go on 50 dates over the course of  one year and share my dating stories, plus size dating tips and lessons learned. 50 Fat Dates kicked off on Valentines Day so if this is your first visit make sure to catch up!~Kelly

It’s 1.13am and my driving test at the DMV is tomorrow. No, I’m not laying awake thinking about how my test might end up like the scene out of Clueless(although it might.) I can’t sleep because my mind is running in circles about my 50 Fat Dates (or lack thereof.) It’s been almost a month since Valentine’s Day and I’ve haven’t been on a single date! Nope not even one.  Everyone keeps asking me about it and its on my mind all the time.

I got the ball rolling by sending out a group  e-mail (plea) to my friends, family and colleagues asking for introductions to single men who would be interested in dating me. It’s been a week and I haven’t received a single response. Not one.  Tumble weeds are freaking rolling down my street here in Hollywood (was it something I said?)

Here’s what I sent:

50 Fat Dates

I can only imagine the non- responses is one of two things A) Nobody want their guy friends/ relatives/colleagues to date me or B) They don’t want me dating their friends/ relatives/colleagues. C) They don’t want their men to be the subject of a blog post on 50 Fat Dates (even if they are anonymous.) I even posted in a Facebook group and got called out for ‘crowd sourcing’ so had to remove it. I hadn’t really thought of it that way but I suppose that’s what asking for introductions are.

Despite that, here’s what I’ve been hearing a lot of “he’s not good enough for you” but maybe they’re my friends are also thinking “she’s not good enough for him?” The other response I’ve had is that people only know married guys. I guess this is a good real-life example of what dating for a plus size woman in her 30’s is like and how difficult it is to get introduced to single men via friends, family and colleagues. It’s hard. On the positive I’m not looking for any ‘pity dates’ so I count myself lucking for not having to deal with that. I’d rather legit guys who are interested in me.

Even though this ‘introduction’ element of 50 Fat Dates has been a big fat failure. I’m not giving up. I’ve got lots of other ways of meeting men in mind. Sooner or later I’m going to have to do what I’ve been avoiding for years…online dating. I’ll be honest this scares me a lot but it’s something I have to do. I’m sure a lot of plus size women (and women in general) feel the same way so since I’m representing the big girls on this project I’ll have to take one for the team and set up those online dating profiles. Wish me luck! Any tips for online dating~Kelly

Kelly Glover is an Australian living in Los Angeles and created this plus size fashion blog as a place for curvy women to get info and advice on plus size dating, celebrity and fitness. contact@bigcurvylove.com
    • Jennifer Woodard
    • March 12, 2014
    Reply

    Kelly,

    Good luck with dating and especially online dating. I tried it in 2012 and I meet so many weird men that it actually scared me from dating. I am thinking about giving it another try this spring or summer whenever I get up the nerves.

    Good luck,
    Jenn

    1. Reply

      Good luck to the both of us Jenn!! Double date? LOL

  1. Reply

    Kelly, I am glad you posted this. It’s important for women to know that sometimes getting out there and getting the ball rolling ‘ain’t easy. I’m motivated to do all I can to bring Mr. Big into your life. Don’t be shy, get out there and start flashing your beautiful smile. Remember, “if you build it, they will come!” ;-)

    1. Reply

      OMG field of dreams hahah yep that’s me! LOL

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    Online dating is the same as regular dating to me (well…I haven’t dated since 2002. I’ve been with my husband since Nov 2002.)…you’ll meet some frogs. As long as you’re honest and straightforward with what you’re looking for, and what you don’t want, you’ll be ok.

    I mean, creeps have been around since before the internet, so it’s not like they’re all on okCupid.lol

    Have fun.

    Q
    http://www.geminiq.blog.com

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      Thanks for the encouragement Q! Lots of frogs at the moment. I’m staying positive about it though :)

    • Jessie
    • April 19, 2014
    Reply

    Sorry I’m late to the party, but the email is very formal, and if I received it from a friend I’d think it was spam, or someone hacked her account. I probably wouldn’t even open it just for the safety of my computer.

    1. Reply

      Hi Jess, Never thought of it that way!

    • joy
    • June 24, 2014
    Reply

    Hi, Just found your website and have been slowly reading through it all. Good luck with everything girl!!! I am a curvy girl and found my husband on eharmony back in 2003. I went on a few dates but never really connected until I met my hubby. We’ve now been married 9 years with two boys. Love can be found on the Internet! Good luck to you!

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      Wow 11 years after E-Harmony! Good on you Joy! I know it can happen (don’t worry if it does I’ll be telling you)

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