Date #18: Mr. Beverly Hills

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I’ve never gone for a drink with someone who asked me out from a moving vehicle (hello stranger danger) but since I haven’t been on a date in months I felt like I owed you a solid 50 Fat Dates story.

LA Podfest had ended and I was feeling cheerful after a fantastic happy hour in Beverly Hills. As I walked to my car in the Beverly Center parking lot, a shiny black SUV rolled up beside me and a sexy man said “hi.” I live in LA, have  booty for days so this happens a lot. As usual I said hi back and smiled thinking that would be the end of it and he would roll on by. Wrong. He kept driving slowly and chit-chatted with me while I walked and asked me out for a drink. I was tired after a days work, still jet lagged, and wearing a branded bright pink t-shirt and black skirt from Target with flats and my hair in a pony tail. I wasn’t feeling my best. He on the other hand looked like the pic above.

In my whole life I’ve never accepted a drive by date but this time said yes. He parked and we walked back to the Sofitel where I knew the conference was still happening (safety first.)

As he ordered a Long Island Ice Tea for himself and a Moscow Mule for me he pulled out a wad of hundreds from his pocket baller style. “Oh God, he’s a drug dealer” I thought. I’m living Breaking Bad but this guy has style and a watch worth more than a years rent.

He mentioned he lives between NYC and Atlanta and travels a lot for work. I wondered if ‘travels a lot for work’ was code for having a girl at every city.  I mean he picked me up from a parking lot and was obviously looking for a one night stand. However, in my defense, the last guy who chased me out of a Hollywood bar ended up as my boyfriend of 3 years.

The conversation over drinks was interesting and I really liked him a lot. He was sexy, charismatic, well spoken, well traveled, funny and just a amazing person.  At 38 with no kids and not married he was a freaking unicorn!  He was the whole package. I did wonder about his package but was still skeptical.

Just like the shiny black SUV, the offers started rolling in as he got closer on the couch. He wanted to fly me to NYC next weekend and take me shopping. Did he somehow think I was a hooker with a heart of gold a la Pretty Woman? If he thought he was taking me to some high-end 5th Avenue store for a shopping spree movie montage then I’d need to shatter that dream quick with a dose of Layne Bryant, Torrid, or City Chic.

Then he mentioned ‘taking care’ of my LA rent. Was this a sugar daddy arrangement?  The offer might have been creepy but he wasn’t. I felt like I was in 50 Shades of Grey without the red room. Oh God. Let me be the fat Anastasia and him the black Christian Grey. What exactly was he offering? What did he want me to do? This is a lot of game if all he wants is a one night stand.

We finished our drinks and he invited me to watch his cousin in a stand up show but I declined. He walked me back to my car and tried to kiss me but I pulled away.  He gave me his number and I drove back to Hollywood. As soon as I was in my apartment I did what any conscientious dater would do and Googled the crap out of him.  Harvard Business School, CFO of multi-million dollar company. He’s s 55 not 38 (Okay I can deal with that).  Then I saw it in one of his bios “X is married to X, his wife of nearly 30 years, and has three children.” 

I immediately though, “Maybe they are divorced, maybe he’s widowed” before snapping out of it and knowing he’s just a liar looking for a one night stand.  I texted him and instead of arranging breakfast passed along my regards to his wife and 3 kids.  Yup, no response there (shocker).

There was something absolutely charming and magnetic about this man. If he actually was who he presented himself as he would be the love of my life. Unfortunately, it’s all ballers, SUVs, and cocktails. Looks like 50 Fat Dates won’t be retiring just yet.

Podcast 22: Vanessa Nash Gale – Plus Size Beauty Queen

Reigning Miss Fuller Woman Canada 2016, Vanessa Nash-Gale joins us on the Big Curvy Love podcast to talk plus size beauty pageants. Her day job is working as a professional hair stylist and makeup artist in Toronto so we can only image at night she wears her crown and does fabulous things dancing around in her undies.

Talking Points

  • Preparing for a plus size beauty pageant
  • What it’s like back stage during the show
  • Beauty pageant language and learning the ‘crouch’ and being ‘sashed’
  • How judging works
  • How much it costs to be in a pageant

 

Plus Size Beauty Pageant Resources

Miss Fuller Woman Canada 

Vanessa Nash Gale 

Podcast 21: Roz the Diva talks Plus Size Pole Dancing

Roz the Diva is a professional plus size pole dancer and instructor. She was featured on season 10 of America’s Got Talent where Howard Stern said she was too fat to have a career in fitness and didn’t know why anyone would want to hire you.

Well we know exactly why. She is amazing and there is so much more to her story than pole dancing. Roz has a degree in business, is a professional stunt woman and is the founder of Dangerous Curves. She is a personal trainer and group fitness instructor who is rocking it in New York City. If you want to know about pole dancing for plus size women this episode is a must.

Plus Size Pole Dancing Resources

Roz the Diva

Dangerous Curves

Podcast 20 Lillian Bustle: Plus Size Guide to Burlesque

This episode we talk with award-winning burlesque performer, Lillian Bustle. You might have seen her TEDx talk Stripping Away Negative Body Image or heard her as the co-host of The Body PosCast.

She says she takes off her clothes artistically in front of crowds, which has taught her to love her body. I can’t wait to learn all about burlesque and everything you do.

 

Photo credit: David L. Byrd

Links to Resources

Stripping Away Negative Body Image: Tedx Talk

The BodyPoscast

Podcast 19 Liris Crosse: How to be A Plus Size Model

So you want to be a plus size model? This episode is what you have been waiting your whole life for. I chat with plus size supermodel Liris Crosse, who I now have a girl crush on because she is straight talking and awesome. She’s paved her own way in the plus size modeling business and been working for a solid decade. You might have seen her in Vogue and Cosmopolitan magazines as well as in the Lane Bryant & Ashley Stewart campaigns. I loved seeing her on the Project Runway finale last year walking in Ashley Nell Tipton’s clothes at New York Fashion Week.

In 2014 Liris created her Life Of A Working Model Bootcamp course. So, if you’ve ever wondered what it really takes to break into the modeling industry and get paid, then this is an amazing episode that talks a whole lot of truth. You’ll also hear shout outs to Gwynnie Bee, Eloqui, Torrid, Tess Holliday, Plus Model Magazine, Full Figured Fashion Week, and  Fashion to Figure.

What We Cover in this Episode:

  • Do plus size models  need a portfolio?
  • Should you put ‘plus model’ after your Instragram? 
  • How tall do you have to be to be a plus size model?
  • Should you work for free as a plus model and for how long?
  • What are plus model sample sizes?
  • What is a ‘fit’ model?
  • Which pays more catalogue or magazine work?
  • Should you do your own hair and makeup?
  • How much should you invest in your portfolio?

Links to Resources Mentioned 

Life of a Working Model Bootcamp