Date #13 Menage a Trois? Part 1

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This is one of the strangest dating experiences I’ve had so far on my 50 Fat Dates quest and probably in my entire dating life. I received the following message:
plus size datingIt’s not often that guys using the online dating sites straight up offer a date in the first message so despite the reference to my being plus size I  decided to check him out. I always go straight to the photos before reading the profile. There were 10 pics which started out pretty standard with one of him in a suit, a few selfies at the beach, a pic with his dog, him painting, and one with him and an attractive woman with her arms wrapped around him. Wait what?? Why would he post a pic of him being romantic with his with the caption was “us watching the sunset at the beach” Yes, he said “us.” There were a few more pics left and I had to keep on clicking. The next photo was with him and the same attractive woman embracing face to face. Okay, something is up. I jump to the next photo of them with the caption “happy together.” Had I missed something?  Were they still together?

Here’s what I discovered when I read the full profile:

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Yes, you read that right the profile says “We would like to meet” it’s a couple looking for a date. OMG! I have been invited to be part of a menage a trios!

I actually don’t understand the “I am looking for someone” and “both of us are looking for someone.” What does that even mean? I decided to message back and ask who was going to be on the ‘date.’ For some reason this feels more like an interview for the position of third wheel.

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Okay, when that makes it more difficult. The ball is in my court now!  Unlike Katy Perry I have never kissed a girl nor have I planned to. This just isn’t  my personal area expertise (or interest to be 100% honest) but as part of my 50 Fat Dates project I feel like I should test this out to report back to you.

What do you think? Should I go on the date? Should I meet just with the guy or the guy and his ‘girlfriend’?

Kelly Glover is an Australian living in Los Angeles and created this plus size fashion blog as a place for curvy women to get info and advice on plus size dating, celebrity and fitness. contact@bigcurvylove.com
    • boobsbuttbelly
    • September 23, 2015
    Reply

    Absolutely you should, but make sure its with both of them. It would make for an awesome interview/article.
    Potential Questions.

    Curious to know if she is slim build? Are they specifically looking for a plus size beauty or just anyone that will say yes?
    Has he been with curvy women before?
    Is she into Curvy women?

    Should it progress how do they see the relationship playing out?
    Do they expect you to eventually move in with them?
    Would you all sleep in the same room or each girl have your own space and he divide his time between you?

    Is he able to satisfy two women or will both be disappointed and mildly frustrated by his lack of staying power?
    Are both girls expected to “perform” for him?

    Is this a joint effort or is she playing along to keep him happy or vice versa?

    So many questions.

    Cannot wait to hear the out come.

    • sammi
    • September 24, 2015
    Reply

    Definitely gonon the date with the 2 of them :)

    • Jessica
    • September 27, 2015
    Reply

    Don’t do it. I have read your 50 first dates post (love them!) & it’s clear you are looking for a solid, fun relationship. People who are looking to “compliment” their relationship sound like drama and frustration. A relationship with one person takes time and emotional energy, why go for 2 ppl? I can only imagine what would happen if you feel closer to one other than the other and jealousy ensues. Not fun!! Stay true to you and your goals. You are a beautiful, vibrant woman and you deserve the attention of a committed, single relationship, not the crumbs of this one they are offering.

    Thank you so much for your posts on dating! I really relate. Keep up the great work. :)

  1. Reply

    I’m actually quite shocked that this is the first encounter you had with a “threesome” proposition during your online adventures. I’ve met several and to me the whole thing is creepy. I’m with your friends above – don’t settle unless you really want to try a threesome with a couple. You’re worth more than this. I’m very open minded, but I got the feeling you were looking for love – REAL LOVE – not just a hookup that you could have found on Tinder.

    Love reading your blog posts. I’ve had my own 50 fat dates this year (well, I have had 16 dates to be exact, and one boyfriend-ish guy for 4 months). It’s been a wild adventure… my friends want me to blog about it, but I’m thinking that’s not a great idea. I have a very different blog, and I’m not sure I should add this there.

    The 50 fat dates experiment is a great idea though. When people tell me it’s hard to date in LA, I agree with them. It’s a big city and it can be hard to meet people. But when they say it’s impossible to date in LA if you’re not thin, I have to disagree. It’s been easier for me to meet people here than when I lived in Houston. Go figure!

    Best of luck, whatever path you choose!

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