DEAR GOD PLEASE SEND ME A DATE

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50 Fat Dates follows my quest to find Big Curvy Love (girlfriend’s in her thirties and looking for a man…don’t judge.)  I’ve challenged myself to go on 50 dates over the course of  one year and share my dating stories, plus size dating tips and lessons learned. 50 Fat Dates kicked off on Valentines Day so if this is your first visit make sure to catch up!~Kelly

50 Fat Dates Last week I told you about how my plus size plea to friends and family asking to set me up with single guys was a big fat flop. It was time to take my 50 Fat Dates quest into my own hands. I’m still not at the point to deal with online dating and finally bowed down to my friend Janis’s suggestion to date a guy at Church. She’d passed one a mile from my apartment on her way back from Yoga one Sunday and noticed that the guys leaving were my ‘type.’

Plus size dating was turning out to be much more difficult than I thought and let me also preface this by saying I’m not religious but I am willing to try anything. I’m sure a people meet their husbands and wives at Church and who knows my husband could’ve been there that very Sunday and I didn’t want to miss my chance to meet him.  Talk about FOMO  (fear of missing out.)

So I went to the 11am service and was literally surrounded by sexy men wearing their Sunday best. Bloody hell (sorry God) Janis was so right! These guys were exactly my type and this place was a freaking gold mine. I tried to block out the unsavory thoughts that raced through my mind as I surveyed the room for eligible bachelors. If God was looking into my thoughts at that moment I’d be in trouble so I kept trying to block them just in case.

During the service there was a music number to rival American Idol. All of a sudden the lead guy got down on one knee and proposed to the lead girl. Was this a sign from God? Was he enticing me to be a Church-goer with great dance numbers, sexy men and a live marriage proposal? Maybe he did know me after all! Sure, I’d facilitated plenty of marriage proposals on my love song dedication radio show but never actually seen one in person. It was amazing and I had a tear in my eye but had to leave for a moment to feed the parking meter. I did have thoughts throughout the service that maybe I wouldn’t get booked because I was in Church and God wouldn’t allow that but then I remembered it was LA and the parking inspectors wouldn’t care so went and swiped my card for another hour.

When I got back I had the chance to have a ‘prayer leader’ say a prayer for me and instead of asking for a husband I asked for a job (as much as I need 50 Fat Dates I need a job more.) I’ll admit her prayer was amazing and if it came true I needed to treat that woman to dinner and give a serious high five to God.

The service was over and I tried to mingle with the crowd but got no love. I guess Church isn’t the place to pick up sexy men after all, especially as a new comer but let’s remember the marriage proposal. Maybe the trick is to keep going back every week. If this was how God was planing to reinvigorate the Church with a younger crowd it was certainly working on me. However, truth be told I felt like an imposter and maybe everyone knew it.

Seriously though, those guys are the best looking I’ve seen in LA.  I was left wondering what is the protocol for asking someone out on a date at Church and would I be in trouble with God if I didn’t tell him about my 50 Fat Dates project?

Within 24 hours I had a phone interview! No solid job offer yet but maybe there was something to this prayer given to me? If so, I needed to go back at least one more time and ask for a husband (or at least a date.) Dear God please send me a date. Lots of Love~ Kelly

Have you ever found a date through Church? What are your tips? Is plus size dating easier at Church?

 

Kelly Glover is an Australian living in Los Angeles and created this plus size fashion blog as a place for curvy women to get info and advice on plus size dating, celebrity and fitness. contact@bigcurvylove.com
    • Grace
    • March 18, 2014
    Reply

    I’m over meeting guys at bars that just want a hook up, so I’ve been trying to find a guy at church too! Not religious either, but where are you supposed to meet people once you’re out of college?! Anyway, which church did you go to with all these sexy men?

    1. Reply

      Hi Grace, Where are you based? The one I went to is in Hollywood :)

    • Louisa P.
    • March 18, 2014
    Reply

    You should really reconsider online dating. I mean, there are sites just FOR plus size ladies and men. It’s so hard to meet a guy when you’re dealing with the weight issue (which is THEIR issue, not yours!) — esp. in Los Angeles where people are so judgmental and everyone’s an effing supermodel or actor.

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    Never did the church thing when I was dating.

    Another good place to at least meet like-minded guys is at the New Beverly theater, or some other small art house theater. That is, if you’re really into those films.

    Open mic nights are good too.

    • Vic G
    • April 12, 2014
    Reply

    You shouldn’t make meeting a man into such a thing. Do the things you like to do, odds are there will be men there that like the activity as well and now you have something in common. I’m recently single (divorced last year and moved back to L.A.) and am trying to jump into the dating pool again. It sure is different from what i remember but I still believe I’m meant for someone. With that belief in hand, I don’t stress about meeting someone..it’ll happen. Wish you the best Kelly. P.S. and take it from a man..the sexiest thing you can wear is a smile. be well

    • Jen Y
    • June 4, 2014
    Reply

    I just discovered your blog today & have been browsing old posts.

    I assume it’s ok to comment on this if I wasn’t a curvy girl when I was dating.
    For me – all the guys I dated were in church. I chose not to date anyone who didn’t go. The man I married 27 yrs ago was & still is a faithful church goer. My son married a curvy girl, he met her playing basketball but they both were faithful church goers all the years they dated & since they’ve been married. My son made faithfulness to church one of his top priorities in looking for a wife (& he’s a slim, athletic man, hard worker & pretty hot even if I am his mom :o) – dated some really cute supermodel looking girls but fell in love with a beautiful curvy girl that we all love tremendously)

    My sister, a curvy girl her whole life, also met her husband in church when she was in her early 40’s – he had been divorced & she had never been married. I have another curvy sister who is 49, never been married but would love to find someone.

    For our family & probably most church goers, it’s more than being religious, it’s having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Probably sounds radical to many but it’s a top priority in marriage for many.

    I also have a very slim friend who is 53 & never been married. She’s not gorgeous but she’s pretty, very funny, hard worker…everything you’d want in a good relationship, but just never really connected with anyone. She would love to find someone to share her life with.

    I guess your story has touched me & I wanted to share some of my own.

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