Dating is difficult. I sometimes get caught up in focusing on all the negatives instead of acknowledging the fact that now really is the best time ever to date as a curvy girl.
Fat chicks have been the flavor of the month for a few years especially since the body positive movement has grown and real life content creators have become more accessible through blogging and YouTube. The mainstream media is showcasing celebrities such as Tess Holliday, Rebel Wilson, Gabourey Sidibe, Melissa McCarthy, and Amber Riley on the cover of magazines, in network TV shows, and hosting awards shows. I know a lot of people say we aren’t where we should be but I’m looking at how far we’ve come since I was a kid when my only role model was Roseanne.
More and more we are being shown as successful and desirable. We also have plus size fashion bloggers such as Chastity Garner, Marie Denee, Sarah Rae Vargas, CeCe Olisa, Alison Teng, and Gabi Fresh repressing us everyday women by showing their confident fashion and entrepreneurial business sense. For me this offers a “wow they are so fabulous” mentality and “I can be too.”
I know a lot of people complain about the state of plus size fashion but I truly feel that mindset and comments is such a slap in the face to brands who are offering up great clothes. At size 24 I certainly have more styles to wear now than I did when I was a size 16 in high school. Torrid, City Chic, Mod Cloth, and Gwynnie Bee amongst others just didn’t exist or offer what they do today. What we have on offer is amazing and I’m so happy to have access.
My point is that as a plus size women today we are seen a more positive light than at any other time and have access to current fashion trends in our size. We are also living in a time where online dating is part of everyday life, which affords us on-demand options and be active in our dating pursuits.
Sometimes I have to remind myself of the positives instead of focusing on the negatives and I wanted to share with you too!
P.S 70% of Americans are overweight. If you are in the dating pool then 7 out of 10 people are fat. You are more than likely going to date a fat person. Those people who choose only to date a slim person are limiting themselves to dating 30% of the dating pool. In which case. Good luck!!!
P.P. S As long as you use a legit current photo of yourself you’ll be fine!
Do you agree? Is this the best time in history to be dating as a curvy woman?