I’m fat, I date, and I’ve never had anyone walk out on a Tinder date with me!
Here’s the ‘Fat Girl Tinder Date’ video by male dating site Simple Pickup that has gone viral. The scenario is “what happens when someone’s Tinder photos don’t match them in person?”
A women has bikini pics posted on Tinder then shows up on a fat suit. Add in a hidden camera and you have a viral vid on your prosthetic chubby hands.
My Response to ‘Fat Girl Tinder Date’ Video
As someone who is a size 22 (without a fat suit) and in the midst of going on 50 Fat Dates over the course of a year (check out the dates so far here) I have been on plenty of dates with guys who are interested in me as a plus size women. When I see this video I am not offended and I don’t believe that it represents me or the men who date me. I choose men who choose me. When people see this video they look to me expecting a negative angry response but I’m not offended and here’s why:
Firstly, I understand this is a hidden camera ‘social experiment’ video designed to insight a response with a skinny/ fat switcheroo. Basically they want people to say “wow look at how horrible these guys are to a fat girl.” This video doesn’t mean guys don’t (or won’t) date a fat chick but that these particular guys aren’t interested and don’t like being deceived (who the hell does?) Obvious online dating etiquette is that what you see in profile pics is what you get in real life. Ain’t nobody got time to be fooled.
Make no mistake, Tinder is a looks based hookup app with very little user profile information. I can understand why these guys are angry and annoyed at their interaction when fat suit Sara showed up in place of slim bikini girl Sara as seen in her profile pictures. Tinder isn’t about meeting the love of your life but more about a one night stand. I’ve heard of women do the same thing to men if they show up a foot taller than they stated in their profile so really what’s the difference?
This video is not about how guys treat big girls in the online dating world or proving that guys hate fat chicks, its about how guys treat liars. Some guys are attracted to big girls and some aren’t but you need to be a true representation of yourself and Sara just wasn’t and didn’t own it thinking it was a small deal when in fact it is a big fat deal. This is about attraction and deception.
Sure, the “you must like to eat” comment was a bloody rude but that guy was the only one who stuck through the entire date. The guy leaving to go to the bathroom and not coming back was gutless and a show of his character more than anything else. However, the ones I respect the most are the men who said this isn’t for me and gave feedback that she didn’t look like her picture.
Don’t buy into the message that guys aren’t attracted to fat chicks (some are some aren’t) or that if you go on a date you will be treaded like crap because you are plus size. Take away from this that guys aren’t attracted to deception and always show who you are right now.
P.S Simple Pickup did the same experiment with a guy in a fat suit and the women were much nicer. Many are saying that this is a comment on the different ways men and women treat each other on a first date. Here’s the video to that one:
Are you offended by this video? What do you think? Leave your comments below and lets get a discussion going with everyone’s point of view!