50 Fat Dates follows my quest to find Big Curvy Love (girlfriend’s in her thirties and looking for a man…don’t judge.) I’ve challenged myself to go on 50 dates over the course of one year and share my dating stories, plus size dating tips and lessons learned. 50 Fat Dates kicked off on Valentines Day so if this is your first visit make sure to catch up!~Kelly
Plus Size Dating Tip: Beware of Restaurant Booths!
I seriously love a cosy dining situation with a man as it’s much more private than a boring old rickety table. When out with friends and the table vs booth question pops up I will always be the first to suggest a booth (I love them) but bloody hell, sometimes it can be more trouble that its worth.
Having a big bum, thick thighs and jelly belly sometimes makes getting in and out of a restaurant booth tricky. I’ve been on a couple of dates where I’ve had trouble and my butt bunny hopped along the vinyl bench seat. Yep, my date just starred at me not knowing what to do and I just wanted the moment to be over with. The U shaped ones are the worst for plus size women and I’ll only ever sit on the end spot (scooting to the middle is for suckers and those who want to get themselves stuck).
Since I’m heading out on 50 dates this year on my quest to find Big Curvy Love, chances are I won’t be choosing most of the restaurants. I quite like it when the man chooses the place. Once you’ve managed to maneuver yourself and squeeze in you may not A) be able to breathe and B) get out. If you’re wearing Spanx and end up sitting in a booth then you’re double screwed. Since I don’t wear shapewear (I didn’t say I don’t wear underwear…geez….calm your farm,) I’m generally okay with sliding in assuming there’s enough room between the table, my stomach, and the chair. Sometimes I have to pull the table out a little but I guess it all depends on how big your date is too. This is stressful and I can’t imagine having to go through this a whopping 50 times on my dates.
Seriously its sitting at a table how hard can it be I hear you asking. Here’s my big issue with restaurant booths; much like beanbags they’re difficult to get out of. I’ve even seen slim people struggle to elegantly remove themselves from a booth and attempt to un-stick their thighs and end up clambering out, however, when you’re on a plus size date it just feels a lot more embarrassing (first impressions and all that.) I mean, he knew I was fat from the beginning but he didn’t know I would seem so uncoordinated at a seemingly simple task.
I always envisage my date having to yank me out of the booth by the arm and pop me like a cork to get me out. Romantic? Um, no. All I’m saying is sometimes us girls on the plus size dating scene need to take a few different things under consideration to ensure our night out is are as comfortable as possible. Only then can we truly focus on what’s important and not spend the whole night worrying about being stuck in a stupid restaurant booth with our arms flailing about in front of a man we like. Say it with me: “Aint nobody got time for that.”
Next time you’re on a first date have a think about where you’re going to sit oh and you also might want to re-think the Spanx! When I’m on my 50 dates I’ll try my hardest to NOT to suggest the booth as much as I love (and hate them) I’m not willing to publicly suffer the consequences on the first date. ~Kelly xoxo